By: Camille Leffall Rogers
We all know them! And by “them,” I mean … The overbearing, too eager to give their opinion, always critiquing (even though they think they’re doing you a favor) family member(s) or friend(s). These “Know it Alls,” and “Been there, done that” types have cost you hours of sleepless nights and given you anxiety attacks! If any of these people frequent the circles you are a part of, chances are, whether you like it or not, you’ve reluctantly reserved a space for them at your next event!
With so many to do’s on an interior or event design checklist, enough is enough! The added stress of outrageous expectations from family or friends can be debilitating or make you want to throw in the towel before you’ve even begun!
The truth is, while it’s good to consider that event planning and or decorating might not be the best hobby for a myriad of personalities, being too easily persuaded to conform or too indecisive can result in disaster. Tactfully standing your ground, persistence, and growing an added layer of thick skin, are all necessary attributes in successfully designing spaces and events.
Camille’s Concepts Tips For Tactfully Standing Your Ground…
1. Do Your Homework:
Hindsight is 20/20, so make sure to examine all your options before making a decision. Nothing frustrates your assembled groups of helpers more than numerous unnecessary revisions.
2. Get Time on Your Side:
If you leave yourself plenty of time to make decisions, you will be able to stay organized and chances are you will be more receptive to new ideas others may present and you will be able to devote an adequate amount of time for consideration before delivering thoughtful critiques and your final decision.
3. The Wow Factor:
You don’t have to share everything about your event with everyone. It’s perfectly acceptable to tell curious individuals that you have a few surprises and you wouldn’t want to ruin them or you have a few options to review, but have been advised not to make that decision until closer to the event date. (Then smile politely and change the subject to a more neutral topic)
4. Let Others Participate, So Delegate:
It’s your event so its’ only natural that you want everything to be perfect! But there is only one of you and 100 things to do. First, make sure you have employed the right individual for the right job. If you know the strong suits of your helpers, reward them with tasks that will highlight their capabilities. Second, explaining your vision. Know one can read your mind so providing visual aids helps insure that what you are asking for will be achieved.
5. Be Polite & Truly Thankful:
No one likes working for a tyrannical manager! If you are planning an event where people are volunteering their time and hard-earned cash to be involved, make sure that you express how thankful you are and be polite, considerate, and accommodating to others. Always be a team player and don’t ask people to do tasks that you wouldn’t do for someone else.
After considering tips 1-5, you should still be prepared for some form of negativity. The “Been there, done that” types just can’t help themselves. It’s important for you to remember to take the good with the bad. If your positive reviews tremendously outweigh your negative reviews, consider your event a huge success!
Know that you can’t please all the people all the time going into your event, but you sure can have fun planning, organizing, and executing.
Remember, if you get stuck Camille’s Concepts is only a phone call away (650) 701-3755 or e-mail me at Camille@camillesconcepts.com
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